The Smirking Gargoyle

I recently wrote an essay for school defining a single abstract word. From a very juicy list of options including things like "Wisdom," and "Revenge," I settled on "Grit." I enjoyed this process so much I may go back and define the rest of the list as well :) But in the meantime, here is what I came up with:

All That You Have And More

Cori Whitlock

Grit is an acquired character trait that results when an individual consistently chooses to embrace suffering and hardship in the pursuit of a challenging goal.

Many people would call grit "perseverance." This is understandable, since grit in action pursues a target despite hardship or pain, which is one of the most common understandings of perseverance. However, grit is a more specific attitude than simply the tendency to not give up. It is a tough style of dealing with obstacles and pain. Grit is also similar to courage in many ways. Both of these traits include an individual facing challenges head-on despite fear, or the danger of loss, pain, and failure. However, it is important to note that grit isn’t an inherently high, noble, or intelligent character trait. Ugliness, directness, and simplicity characterize grit and prevent it from being a universally desirable, lofty virtue like bravery and courage. If grit has an opposite, it is cowardice. Cowardice crumples where grit is steadfast, and brittle where grit is tough. But even more specifically, the action of suicide is the antithesis of grit. There is a large selection of cowardly ways to respond to pain when it comes, but suicide stands out among them. Suicide is the declaration, “I can’t do this anymore”. No cop-out is more thorough, and no form of quitting promises so absolutely that “I will never try again.” In contrast, grit drinks up pain and accepts it. Someone who has grit will do their very best when things are at their very worst. But suicide is the decision that some kind of suffering is unacceptable.

The seeds for grit are planted in you when you determine a clear goal you’d like to achieve. This goal has to be well defined, and you have to have intense conviction about the relevance of the goal, as well as a desire and intention to achieve it. Many people after reaching this point- having found the necessary vision of an endpoint and the clarity, conviction, and intention to achieve the goal- succeed without encountering any serious resistance. But in order to acquire grit, you must encounter an obstacle of some kind between you and the goal, which could be anything that challenges your commitment and conviction to achieve it. Now your choice is twofold: Firstly, you must believe that achieving their goal is still possible (this step can surprisingly be the most difficult choice required), and then you have to decide whether or not to make the sacrifice implied by the obstacle. There are many different ways of proceeding in spite of hardship, but grit will face difficulty directly. Cleverness, persistence, or inventiveness may all help someone achieve a goal, but they are not the same as grit. If you make these dozens of small choices to believe in the possibility, face the challenge directly, and sacrifice what is required to reach a goal so often that you no longer even consider any choice besides facing the challenges head on, then you have grit.

Grit could be described as a man... a grizzled man with a beard covering his face, and scars on his hands. Not tall, but wiry and lean with flinty, sparking eyes and rough clothes. Walking down the road, you couldn’t tell if he was looking at the next patch of ground to pass beneath his boots, or at the furthest disappearing bend. If you spoke to him about the difficulty ahead of him on the path- the trees across it, the bandits that frequent it, and the peril that must surely befall him upon it- he would say, “So be it.” If you asked him which direction he was going, he would say, “Forward”. If you told him he was too weary and spent to make the journey, he would say, “I have more in me.” When you warn him there is a toll bridge ahead, he would say, “I will pay.” And If you told him there was another way to reach his invisible destination, then he wouldn’t hear you. To him there is no other way than this one. His jaw is set stubbornly. He is not clever, and his strategy is simple; He will pay up front. The pain he feels means nothing beyond the sensation. In the mind of Grit there is room for just two possibilities: Overcoming or perishing in the attempt. If you put before him a task that must destroy him, then the man Grit would die on the road to where he was going. Never, even in death would he turn aside to expire on softer ground. To Grit success is inevitable. Because to give everything he has and come up short is as acceptable in his mind as reaching the end of the road.

We can all choose to have grit. In fact, virtually all of us have grit in some area, but cowardice in others. There is no minimum amount of strength or resources required to generously sacrifice in order to achieve a goal. Grit doesn’t sacrifice an amount, it gives a percentage: One hundred percent. Everyone has what it takes- the only question is, will you give everything you have?